What is Social Anxiety?

Social anxiety, also known as social phobia or social anxiety disorder (SAD), is a condition in which a person experiences an intense and persistent fear of social situations. This fear goes far beyond everyday nervousness. For some individuals, social anxiety can become so overwhelming that they begin to avoid social interactions altogether, which can significantly affect daily life. People may feel anxious long before a social event takes place, worrying about what might happen, how they may be perceived, or whether they will embarrass themselves. After the event, they may continue to feel distressed, replaying and analysing every detail in their mind.

For some it may go as far as negative self-talk, criticising them self, such as saying ‘I’m not good enough’, self-blame, doubting their abilities and catastrophising.

This ongoing cycle of anticipation, fear, and self‑criticism can make even simple activities, such as making a phone call, speaking to a cashier, or attending a meeting, feel incredibly challenging.

Is It Just Shyness?

Social anxiety is often misunderstood as shyness, but the two are not the same. Shyness is a personality trait, while social anxiety is a mental health condition that can significantly impact a person’s life. Someone with social anxiety experiences extreme and pervasive fear in social situations, often accompanied by a sense of being out of control. This fear can interfere with relationships, work, education, and everyday functioning.

While a shy person may feel uncomfortable in certain situations, someone with social anxiety may feel terrified, overwhelmed, or unable to cope. The intensity of the fear, and the impact it has on daily life, is what sets social anxiety apart.

So, What Is It Really?

At its core, social anxiety is rooted in the fear of being judged, embarrassed, or humiliated. People with social anxiety often worry about being seen negatively or making mistakes in front of others. This fear can affect everyday activities such as going to the shops, attending work, or eating in a restaurant. Situations that many people take for granted can feel daunting and overwhelming.

This ongoing fear can affect self‑confidence and self‑esteem, making it difficult to form or maintain personal relationships. It can also impact interactions with peers, colleagues, and even family members. While everyone worries about social situations occasionally, someone with social anxiety experiences worry before, during, and after the event, often to an exhausting degree.

Signs of Social Anxiety

• Fear in some or most social situations
• Fear of being judged or humiliated
• Fear of being embarrassed
• Avoiding social situations
• Overanalysing past social interactions
• Blushing, sweating, or trembling in social situations or settings

Social Anxiety Symptoms

Emotional Symptoms

• Worry with intense fear about social interactions
• Constantly replay social interactions or situations after they happened
• Anxiety about future events
• Fear of embarrassing oneself

Physical Symptoms

• Upset stomach
• Sweating
• Trembling
• Racing heart
• Blushing
• Dizziness
• Muscle Tension
• Shaky Voice
• Dry mouth

Avoidance Behaviours

• Avoiding social interactions or events
• Avoiding activities that involve interaction with others or conversations with strangers or new acquaintances
• Avoiding speeches or presentations or speaking up at works, meetings etc
• Cancelling plans

Many of these physical symptoms are part of the body’s natural “fight or flight” response. When the brain perceives a social situation as threatening, the body reacts as though it is in danger. This can lead to avoidance behaviours, such as skipping gatherings, giving very brief answers in conversation, or struggling to maintain eye contact.

When Dose It Start

Social anxiety can begin at any time; however, it is a common usually starting during the teenage years. For some as people get older the symptoms get better, however, for others it does not go away without treatment.

It is also common for social anxiety to occur alongside other mental health issues such as depression, generalised anxiety disorder or panic disorder.

What Could Help

Social anxiety is a treatable condition where support is available. Helpful approaches include:

Keeping a diary to track anxiety levels, how you behave in different situations, what you are thinking, your thoughts and physical sensations.

Relaxation exercises and techniques to help calm the body

Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) helps to identify negative thought patterns and behaviours (challenge negative thoughts)

Breakdown the situation and face the fear, slowly and taking small steps

Support groups can also be helpful to help the individual feel less alone and get help and guidance from other people’s experience.

Medication, if recommended by a professional healthcare provider.

Enjoyable activities to build confidence and reduce stress.

Social anxiety is more than shyness, it’s an intense and persistent fear of social situation. People with social anxiety often worry about being judged, embarrassed, or negatively evaluated by others. This fear can appear before, during and after social interactions, affecting thoughts, emotions and everyday life. Many people cope by avoiding these situations altogether.

The encouraging news is that social anxiety can be treated. Strategies such as keeping a diary, practicing relaxation techniques, and therapies like CBT can help make life feel more manageable and hopeful.

If you or someone you know is struggling with social anxiety, you don’t have to face it alone. Reaching out to a friend, family member, or a qualified professional can be an important first step. Support is available, and with the right help many people find that their anxiety becomes easier to manage, and their confidence begins to grow.